Somatic Sexology Sessions
All sessions can be done via Zoom and in person.
In a session we are able to work with ALL sexual issues and concerns.
Sessions are open to all people, complete INCLUSIVITY!
Sessions Via Zoom - Initial1.5 hours
Sessions Via Zoom - Subsequent1 hour
Sessions in Person1.5 hours
What happens in a session?
As an informed certified Sexological Bodyworker/Somatic Sex Coach, Embodiment Practitioner, I am in a unique position to offer guidance, education and hands-on support.
Each session is unique and informed by your personal history, concerns, curiosities and what it is you want to learn more about or heal from.
A crucial part of the education with each client is the forming of consent, intentions and boundaries. These help create a safe container in which we work together.
I support my clients in co-creating consent driven intentional practices. These practices, involving breath, movement, sound, touch and placement of awareness, bridging the divide between mind and body, to get fully back in touch with physical sensations, emotions and finding pleasure, because there is always more.
Clients learn to have a choice in how they feel, act, and react during intimacy and sex, allowing them to realise and express their authentic needs, desires and boundaries and break old habits that no longer serve them.
Somatic transformation happens over time with practice. I seldom work in single sessions.
What is Somatic Sexology?
A pioneering field, Somatic Sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.
Why learn Somatically
Because it is effective. By teaching somatically, we not only acknowledge the fundamental importance of the mind and body connection, but utilize it in every aspect of life. Advances in neuroscience in recent years show how the mind and body are in the constant process of influencing each other, and provide evidence that supports the need for somatic practices in sexology, psychology, and other client-centred helping professions. This is ground-breaking education.
In teaching somatically, we invite the body into the learning space, tune into the ways in which the body sends and receives information, and explore the diverse and unique ways the body learns.
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"Your capacity for pleasures is a natural part of being human, you don't have to earn it, you were born with it, you are whole and complete, loving and loveable"
- Betty Martin
Informed consent forms the basis of all session work. I work within the parameters of our Professional Code of Ethics, viewable at sseaa.org.
These sessions will not fulfill your desires for sexual connection.
I work consciously from that premise and makes sure my clients understand this important principle.
While I acknowledge the human longing for connection, I recognise the value of professional boundaries.
The focus of individual sessions is on the client’s experience within their own body.
I do not act as a surrogate partner. I work clothed and touch within sessions is one-directional from me to client, I wear gloves for any genital touch.
I am committed to complementing and extending the effectiveness of services offered by psychotherapists and other healthcare professionals.
I value working in close partnership with these professionals, but will do so only at your request.
As a Sex Educator and Embodiment Practitioner I make no claim to diagnose, treat or prevent any medical or psychological condition.
Intensive Vulva-Vaginal Sessions
2.5 hours $375
(Sessions open to all people identifying as a vulva owners)
Intentionally focusing on your vulva vaginal area, with no medical or sexual outcome, creates a deep spaciousness in you to discover, enliven, learn, explore, enhance, heal, listen or get curious about.
Remembering this area of our body is connected to all that we are anatomically and physiologically, it is part of a whole system and rarely gets any airplay outside of sex or medical procedures, but yet it is such a powerful and intelligent part of us.
Sessions are beneficial to everyone. Whether you are sexually active, you haven’t had sex for a while, sex is painful, sex is pleasurable, you are actively self pleasuring or you don’t touch yourself, you need some deep relaxation time, or you want to active your sexuality, you have had babies (c-section or vaginal) or you haven’t, you have sexual issues and/or concerns or you are completely ok with your sexuality.
There sessions are consensual and educational. I create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental space offering you an opportunity to unravel, unwind and learn more about yourself. We can work with anything you are wanting to explore, potentially including any number of the following.
Relaxation – Postural holding patterns and constriction of pelvic muscles are often caused by the overuse of the human instinct to protect the genitals. These factors may limit our sexual function. Learn to relax and allow for greater pleasure.
Mysterious Discomfit – There are many discomforts vulva owners suffer from that the medical world does not understand. Some of these discomfits have been given labels such as vulvodynia, vaginitis, vaginismus and so on. It is very possible that these discomfits can be emotional or psychological. I know that working with the body in conjunction with other professionals, doctors and psychologists can support wholistic healing and restore health and pleasure to the vulva-vaginal area.
Arousal Anatomy – Somatic sex education teaches you how your physical body creates arousal and empowers you with greater understanding of how your body works. By mapping out the arousal anatomy of your body, you can discover pleasure in unexpected places and increase physical responsiveness. Learning about your own or your partner’s genital anatomy can unlock greater sensation and enjoyment. Understand the body as an integrated system of arousal, lubrication and engorgement; and practise rewiring your networks of pleasure.
Orgasm – Whether you are pre-orgasmic (haven’t had one yet) or multi-orgasmic there are a myriad of ways to diversify and expand your range of experience.
Post Partum – spending time with your ‘new’ vulvovagina, let’s face it after birth we never go back to how we were before, on all levels. Spending time getting to know yourself again after birth is so important. A high percentage of women emerge from vaginal birth or C-section birth with a tear/s, or surgical repair. Resulting scar tissue can significantly affect your ability to feel pleasure and enjoy sex after childbirth. Scar tissue remediation can alleviate pain and increase sensation.
Body acceptance – Working deeply with issues of shame, embarrassment and self-care. In a safe and non-judgemental environment you can begin to transform deep wounds into self-confidence and self-acceptance.
Anal pleasure and health – The anus has the potential to unlock chronically held physical and emotional tension in the entire pelvic region. It can also be the source of great pleasure. Connection with the anal area can be explored through breath work, pelvic floor awareness, and slow, conscious and mindful touch. Overcoming chronic pelvic tension can relieve digestion issues, haemorrhoids and fissures and allow the body to access more of its full pleasure potential.
Every sessions is different as every vulva owner is unique, has a unique history and present day circumstance that is individual.
These are beautiful, intimate and worthwhile sessions.
Embodiment Coaching Sessions
90 mins $150
Most analysis of human communication judge 80% of communication to be non-verbal……. I am curious what are you communicating??!!
Embodiment leads us to the wisdom inside our own bodies, and starts the balancing process. The body automatically knows what it wants and needs, but we can forget how to listen to it
Approaching the body with respect, we shift out of regarding it as a machine and approach it with more humility, we move from an attitude of changing it to listening to it and allowing it to express itself. As we listen we discover a variety of resources, qualities, intelligence, and experience within ourselves. Important parts of ourselves emerge with different strengths and needs. We can, shut down the unfamiliar aspects of ourselves, maintaining the status quo or we can, intentionally invite more of us to be expressed and felt.
Your body has wisdom beyond what you can access through thoughts or through talking. By learning to focus on what you are experiencing through your body, you learn that you are in charge of yourself. You have the ability to move through the most challenging of experiences, and you have the capacity to live intentionally, that is, in the way that you choose to.
Feeling our bodies in the fullest sense of the word can help us feel our own vitality and the path towards wholistic health, it also connects us to the rest of life that exists around us and the natural world. Understanding our bodily selves as complex human animals can reconnect us to a creative role on this planet.
Benefits of Embodiment
~ develop greater capacity for empathy
~ greater self regulation (or choice)
~ making healthier decisions
~ enhanced intuition
~ attuned communication
~ stress relief
~ balancing the nervous system
~ by mobilising posture, uncover the attitudes that have supported it
~ unraveling patterns of emotional and physical contraction and expansion.
~ start to experience a greater range of orgasmic sensations through the body.
Sexological Bodywork/Somatic Sex Education Sessions
90 mins $150
You may not know exactly what it is you are after yet, but asking this question is the first step to finding out. Sexological Bodyworkers work closely with you to understand your specific needs. We provide a non-judgemental space where you can talk openly about your life, sex, relationships and sexual history.
Sexological Bodywork was developed in California by Dr. Joseph Kramer. It draws on the concepts of Tantra, Taoism, embodiment, human anatomy and physiology, the work is educational and delivered in a science based narrative.
The focus of Sexological bodywork is primarily in learning about the human body, sexuality and embodiment and bringing these elements together to create more pleasure and harmony in our experience of being human and having our own unique sexuality.
Sexological Bodyworkers are Somatic Sex Educators, supporting individuals, couples and groups to learn to direct their own personal and sexual growth. We also facilitate learning about the body, sex and sexuality, as well as working through sexual issues or concerns.
Sexological Bodyworkers offer education and coaching to support people to deepen their experience of embodiment.
Sexological Bodyworkers believe that sexual health and erotic education are basic human rights.
We use a variety of instructive modalities that bring awareness to limiting patterns and habits and offer body-based experiential learning opportunities.
Recurring patterns can arise in relationships that limit people’s capacity for intimacy. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honour and celebrate erotic energy. Working with a Sexological Bodyworker can provide a safe, supportive environment outside these relationships, to openly work through and resolve issues at a relaxed pace.
Sexological Bodywork is not clinical; It is individualised holistic education.
90 mins $150
Scar remediation is a massage technique which when combined with organic castor oil helps to ease the discomfort of scarring from physical trauma, surgery, infection and childbirth.
Scars can also be referred to as adhesions and collagenous plaque build-up and can happen underneath the skin, sometimes without any obvious puncture wounds.
This massage technique can be performed on the body internally or externally. I am trained in urogenital bodywork, so I specialise in genital and pelvic scarring, but I can work with scars in most areas of the body.
In some cases Scar Remediation can help with the cosmetics of visible scars, but is primarily designed to remediate pain, numbness, hypersensitivity and restore mobility.
90 mins $150
You can learn to have choice around ejaculation. You can prolong pleasure and create more satisfying sex for both yourself and your partners.
90 mins $150
Porn – It’s everywhere, but how is it impacting on your experiences of sex and pleasure? Looking at your relationship with porn can help you find the tools to integrate it into your life and achieve a healthy balance.
90 mins $150
If you want to have better sex and more satisfying relationships the place to begin is with yourself. People often switch off due to life’s distractions, or achieve pleasure only via fantasy or imagery. The presence of shame, embarrassment and guilt in your life may be preventing you from feeling enamoured with your own body. Learn ways to reconnect with the skin you live in.
Working With Teens
1 hour $120
Sex and Embodiment education can be invaluable for teens, male and female. Mostly they want to know more. I can work with your teen with any issues and or concerns.
The sex education I offer goes beyond what they learn at school about contraception, pregnancy and STI’s, although these issues are part of a wholistic sexual education. Sometimes it is easier for teens to speak honestly and openly with someone outside of the family and friends network.